As you head into the holiday season, it’s natural to think of what you want to change in your life. You’re likely to be bombarded with a host of messages heading into the new year—all about what should be different. You may have a plan to change your body, your weight, your attitude, your job, your schedule, or something else entirely. 

I’m here to propose a different plan for the New Year: 

Focus on what should remain the same. 

Focus on being unapologetically You. 

Stop Being Who You “Should Be”

If you’re anything like me, you had a picture of what your life would look like right now. 

Maybe your life is actually pretty close to what you had planned. Or maybe it’s entirely different. 

Either way, you probably put a lot of pressure on yourself for what your life should look like. What sort of job you should have. What sort of relationship you should...